I was speaking with some women about the latest Mel Gibson dust up. His latest quote, which was secretly recorded by his girlfriend, reads as follows:
“You look like a fu**ing pig in heat, and if you get raped by a pack of ni**ers, it will be your fault.”
He goes on to call her a bunch of other names and makes various threats. She has also accused him of hitting her and being violent in the past.
What struck me about this was how the women I spoke with defended Mel on several counts. First, they felt that since he thought he was speaking these words in private, he has the right to say whatever he wants. Second, they seem to have already decided that his girlfriend is a gold digger so she deserves whatever she gets. Third, even if she was being verbally or physically abused by the Mel-ster, she could get out of it by just picking up and leaving. Hmm…ok.
Then the conversation took an even odder turn. Before long, Mike Tyson and Kobe Bryant’s names came up. In both cases, the women stated that the women that were raped (or “allegedly” raped as in Kobe’s case), knew what they were getting into. Basically, by going to a hotel room with any guy, you basically are obligated to have sex with the guy.
When did women become so hard? Why would you turn on your sisters like that? Do women really believe that when a woman goes to the hotel or apartment of a man, they get whatever is coming to them? When the young women that went with the Notre Dame football players to a “party” after being at a bar was gang raped, was she to blame for putting herself in that position?
I guess I always thought that women would protect each other because most of them have been in a similar situation at one point or another in their lives. But maybe this is precisely why they feel the way they do. Maybe they feel guilty for their own behaviors and have a hard time being empathetic to another woman who has made similar decisions.
I am really having a hard time wrapping my head around this. I have no sympathy for Mel, Tiger, Kobe, Mike, etc. If a beautiful naked woman comes knocking on my front door (and yes, I am strongly encouraging this behavior), I don’t have the right to do with her as I see fit. Just because she has put herself in a compromising position, it does not give me the right to take advantage of her. I kind of thought this was how most people thought but maybe I am more the exception than the rule. If so, this world is even more frighteningly fu**ed up than I ever suspected it was. (And, as you know, I hold humans to an awfully low standard already).
Ladies, get your shit together.
(Mike, next time, go for an all female jury.)