I guess Facebook has a no nudity policy. So, when a woman posts a picture of herself breastfeeding her child, Facebook removes the ones that they classify as offensive. Seems like a fairly straightforward policy. Facebook is a free service and should have the right to set the rules. If you don’t like their rules, go to another website. Right?
Ah, if it were only that simple. You see, this has apparently agitated a bunch of breastfeeding moms who think that Facebook is trying to classify breastfeeding as obscene. Moms say that since breastfeeding is “natural” and a positive thing, it should be exempt. Facebook says fine, have your breastfeeding photos…just don’t have any nipple showing. BF moms say that is unfair.
A couple of things. Why do some women feel so compelled to show others that they breastfeed? Is it some sort of status symbol? Are you a superior parent for it? I have never understood the photo thing. I understand you want to show your baby off or maybe have a nice picture of mom and baby…but why the boob? Do bottle feeding moms feel compelled to take pictures of their babies with a bottle in their mouth?
Also, if you think that Facebook is draconian in their policies, why not just use another website? Better yet, start your own! Thousands and thousands of pictures of breastfeeding moms. You will all be in heaven. It seems to me that Facebook has a right to determine what they want on their free website.
Here is how Stephanie Knapp Muir explains it:
“If they were removing all photos of any exposed chest — male or female — in any context, at least that would be fair,” Ms. Muir said. “But they’re targeting women with these rules. They’ve deemed women’s breasts obscene and dangerous for children and it’s preposterous.”
Well, there you have it. Either men start wearing bikini tops or it “boobs away” for everyone. And how she ever got to breasts are “dangerous for children” is beyond me. It is exactly that type of over the top rhetoric that loses most of us. For better or worse, regardless of how you use them, breasts are considered sexual objects. Paint them into a flag, cover them with food, tie them in a loop, whatever…it is what it is.
With everything else going on in the world, being indignant because you can’t post a photo of you and your breastfeeding baby just seems ridiculous. If you want to promote breastfeeding as a cause, knock yourself out. All that most people are asking is that you show a little discretion. We are happy for you, really we are. Just keep it in your shirt. Do it for the children. After all, one day they are going to have to explain that photo.
Lastly, if breastfeeding photos are going to be allowed, I would request that you provide before and after photos. I think it is important that prospective breastfeeding mothers understand the potential ravages of what they are about to undertake. So, say at 2 or 3 months, post the “before” one. Then, if you must, post the “during” photo. Lastly, and God help us all, do the “after” photo. If you are going to do it, do it right.